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Reply by KathCull_admin
15 Mar 2015, 12:31 AM

As I get older the small pleasures seem to be so much more important. Getting out for coffee to the neighbourhood Tim's and not needing to wear winter boots; playing solitaire - like you Oldbat - on the computer before bed - and winning; Saturday Night Live - sometimes!; a vase of fresh cut irises, tulips, daffodils and lilies; Elton John singing 'Your song'; closing the curtains as the night shuts in and feeling safe inside; a little person wearing rubber boots and splashing through what to them are enormous puddles; filling the car with gas and when paying, picking up a chocolate bar (and eating it when I am all alone in the car) 

All can be enjoyed alone but sharing always doubles the pleasure (apart from sharing the chocolate bar!)
Katherine
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Reply by Wingman
15 Mar 2015, 1:27 AM

My precious pony is what keeps me grounded. I have put together a playlist and put my headphones on and we work together and my mind can focus. She provides peace and solitude in this new normal.

I have become a binge baker. I bake and bake and bake. I always have liked to do so....but since my best friends dx I find I look forward to planning multiple recipies for the week....again a point ot focus and with a decided outcome. I struggle with this diagnosis and my mind is often uncontrolled. A challenge for a chronic overthinker.

There is a spring cookie bake sale fundraiser at our local hospice this week and I am looking forward to putting my energies in a positive direction:)
WM 
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Reply by oldbat
15 Mar 2015, 2:32 AM

So nice to see this thread up and running again.  Thank you Katherine and WM.  I was actually thinking of posting earlier, but you both beat me to it!

Glad to hear that your version of solitaire is computer-based, Katherine.  Mine is, too, and I take great pleasure, like you, in beating that infernal machine!

I'm sadly missing one key element of fun right now.  My local library is out of commission - the boiler burst and the ensuing flood closed that branch for the forseeable future.  The staff have moved to another location which is only accessible to me by Wheel Trans.  Not good!  I never know how much time I'll spend in the library.  Could be five minutes or five hours.  I like to read the newspapers I don't subscribe to, check out all the new books and generally just chill.  The head librarian usually drops by for a chat and I even see neighbours there.  So it can be a community occasion for me.  I'm re-reading old favourites from my own little library.  I seem to gravitate towards English authors when times are tough.  But am very eclectic in my tastes otherwise.  Novels. mysteries, biographies, autobiographies, anything on the amazing plasticity of the brain.  Norman Doig, who wrote "The brain that heals itself" has written another book on the same topic, which was published recently.  Can't wait to read that.
But there's a certain pleasure in re-reading old favourites.  That's as comfortable and comforting as catching up with an old friend.

Oh, here's a silly thing:  I joined a singing class yesterday!  Haven't sung in years, although I studied "voice" in school in England.  The class is actually a group of about 10 women.  It's held at a community centre close to me.  I quite enjoyed the experience.  It was led by a man from my co-op who is a talented pianist and has a wonderful voice.  Just as well.  Someone had to!  The rest of us just passed muster!  I couldn't decide what key I needed to sing in, and the others weren't much better.  But singing is a joyous thing, so I'll probably continue.

Another thing I enjoy doing is crossword puzzles.  I do one each night before I go to sleep.  It takes my mind off the fact that Karl is no longer in my bed.  His bed is several miles away.  I do word finds, jumbles and regular crosswords.  Could never figure out acrostics and sudoku is foreign territory I definitely don't want to explore.  That's what math phobia does for you!

Just started a few sessions of physiotherapy.  If tying your body up in knots is your idea of fun, you're probably right!  Muscles I didn't know existed 10 days ago are now making their presence felt.  Each time my torturer visits, he adds exercises and increases my pain.  I jest!  Yes, I'm sore, but my legs, particularly the bad one, feel stronger already and I definitely have more energy.  Yesterday he started had me using a long, elasticized rope, which I to pull in various directions in hopes of strengthening my arms.  I look like a monkey making vaguely obscene gestures!

Enough already!  Time for bed.  But I'm looking forward to hearing from a few lurkers.  Come share with us.  We know you're there and would love to cyber chat with you.

oldbat




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Reply by kathykastner
16 Mar 2015, 5:57 PM

this question is so right up my alley.  My silly pleasure is making everything into a song. While it gives me a jolt of joy, those around me: not so much. (Except for my sister and brother, who have the same make it into a song gene) 

An example: one or another daughter says: My marks came back"  This gets the 60's treatment; "My marks came back and there's gonna be trouble. (Hey na ne nah, my marks came back).

 Or perhaps it's me making the bed. The Beatles are with me. The more obscure the better:  "I'm fixing my bed til the brain kicks in... and stop my mind from wandering where it will go" (should you  want to know original song is "I'm fixing a hole where the rain came in...) 

My other I think not so silly pleasure: tuning into twitter where I've found some of the greatest and most gracious minds.  But doesn't that also apply to CVH? Thanks for  getting this convo revisited!
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Reply by oldbat
16 Mar 2015, 7:11 PM

Hi Kathy,

Thanks for leading the way.  Now I'm hoping that some of those shy types behind the scenes will join us.  We'd really love to hear your stories and share ours.  We're warm, caring, supportive, so please come and join us soon.

Your singing story really entertaqined me, Kathy.  Definitely NOT a silly pleasure.  Look at all the enjoymenty it gives you. 

Please come back and join us again.  Soon,

oldbat
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