Happy Easter to Everyone
I am trying to get through the first anniversary my husband, Avery, passed away. On March 28th 2012, he went into the hospital and I knew in my heart it was serious but refused to go there because he had been given a clean bill of health on March 12th, free of cancer! Unfortunately, his heart gave out and they only gave him two or three days! You always think the doctors are wrong, and he would outlive their predictions. He passed away April 1st. It was so fitting for him to die on April Fools Day, because he was a joker, always laughing and telling his best “jokes”! At any given time, he would make us all laugh until we cried.
I try and remember that he would not want me to be crying as I do, but the emptiness is still there and always will be. They say it gets easier, but I am finding this anniversary the worst of the whole year. I look back and I am amazed the year has gone. I feel as if time has stood still emotionally for me! Maybe It’s because spring isn’t coming as quickly as I or you would like. I am looking at big snowflakes right now!
I guess I want something magical to happen and everything would return to Avery and I sitting on the beach, a year ago today, watching the ice melt, and being 25 degrees outside! Maybe it’s because I filed his last tax return yesterday! It all seems so final now! I am coming full circle without him by my side, the love of my life!
All my life, I never thought that I would feel such loneliness and helplessness emotionally. Just when I thought I was easing the grief, it has come back with a vengeance! Everyone around me says its natural and I have a right to feel the way I do! It is hard to live without loving, you, Avery!
Regards
Jane