Dear Carrriek (Carolyn)
I read some of my earlier posts and see some of the progress I have made. Some days it feels like I am still in the same place 7 months ago, but when I look back, I am in a different place and have come to accept most things I cannot change!
I have overcome some of the obstacles in my way, like the jobs Avery would have done for me. I am sure you have found this out also. The hardest part of the grieving process is not having someone close enough to talk about the little day to day things that both you and your spouse would share. I have been told “I worry too much”, just because I am passing ideas back and forth. Yes, maybe I do worry, but I also had someone to help me out with the “man” things that need to get done.
As you stated, I wish there was a support group for widows. I hope through my rambling, I can give you support as this writing gives me support. I have a social service with my doctor’s office that is set up for grieving with a councillor. He actually called me this week to see how I was doing and to see if I needed to talk. Believe it or not, typing this out has helped me get through the grieving and hope that you do the same. Have you checked with your doctor about this kind of service where you live?
We are entering the winter months which I have been dreading because I live on a lake that I need to snow blow the hills on my property myself. I do realize that my years here our numbered but need to be here just for a few more years. I want my grandchildren to enjoy the lake in winter and summer and all that it has to offer.
We are going to go through the next few months Carolyn with wishes that our love is beside us. We must remember they would want us to continue living life to the fullest, without shedding tears, and doing the best that we can! I am trying to continue the same things I did for Christmas that I always have. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but remember how strong we were when our husbands needed our help when they were sick, the same applies now, only we have to look after us and our families. That is what will take us to a good place!
Giving you best wishes,
Jane