Dear Mark's sister
My condolences on your recent loss of your brother.
I too lost an older sibling, my sister coming up four years ago. We were inseparable throughout her lifetime, being my best friend and confidant.
Six months after her death, my husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer. I had no one to turn to for advice, especially since she was a nurse. A year later my husband died after going through chemo and stem cell, but unfortunately the cancer never left him.
I was heart broken losing my sister, my best friend and yet again, a year later losing another best friend, my husband, My whole life has been turned upside down and still three years later, trying to put the pieces back together. It takes time as I have said time and time again to myself, but we're so hard on ourselves and always want the fastest and easiest solutions to solve our life situations.
I am still grieving some days as if it was yesterday, but that's okay. I am allowed to grieve in any way I chose and answer to no one but me. We are all different in the way we heal emotionally, and there is no time limit.
You will find a healing power on this site as I did, putting your thoughts on paper. It somehow gave me strength to get through one day at a time. I do hope you find the same peace that I have found.
This winter I went away for two months and it was a realization for me that I have to move on. It was hard coming home to the empty house, but yet somehow I knew my husband's spirit would comfort me, and it did.
Regards and hugs, Jane