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Reply by KathCull_admin
15 Sep 2014, 3:15 PM

Hi my rock,
Like you, other members have said that some of the memories around death are hard to forget, but I hope the memory of her words, 'that's nice, that's nicer, that's the nicest' comfort you. 

I really appreciate your descriptions of Mary Ann and who she was and what she meant to you and means to you now. 

As you grieve her death, what do you find helps you get through the day? 

Katherine
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Reply by my rock
16 Sep 2014, 2:38 PM

Hello


Im sorry But I tried writing a story last night and today and before I could submit it


 it deleted the screen turned blue and everthing I wrote disappered


                                                                 Im to nerves to try again


           what could of happen

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Reply by NatR
16 Sep 2014, 3:39 PM

Hello my rock,

please do try again - it's something that happens to us all

if you can compose/type your msg into another program then cut and paste it into the forum box / that would hrlp
i tend to write short msgs and less risk of losing it:)

the he one thing you don't have to worry about is the participants here /  who will wait for your next response

best wishes
NatR  
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Reply by KathCull_admin
16 Sep 2014, 4:14 PM

Hi
I am sorry my rock - as NatR says this happens to everyone - but it can be very upsetting - especially when you have taken time to type it in.  It has happened to me at least 5 times!

NatR gives good advice. I will also send you an email with some guidelines that might help. We look forward to hearing from you my rock.

We will get this sorted out.
Katherine 
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Reply by my rock
17 Sep 2014, 12:16 AM

Hello


 Sorry I was upset the last two messages I will try again.


Getting through the day can be quiet hard at times. I’m still off work so I tend to keep 


Quiet busy   but lately I’ve been trying to seat and think my life out and where I’m   going


Not so easy to do with half your thoughts gone. I’m sill on my doctor’s pills to keep me stable.


But the other day I decided to try it without them not smart at all. I will tell you why I tried


Maybe some won’t believe but that’s okay I didn’t when it first happened so hers the


Story in the short version.


The family started seeing signs every where examples money on the


Floor. Then it happens again same place bird features front of doors


And many more but the biggest was to come.


One of my daughters old school friends who use to hang out at home


Went to a medium to see if she could talk to one of her relatives but it


Backfired and my wife stepped in instead totally took control.


So after the medium got it a little organized my daughters friend new whot it was .went home and called my daughter once we got wind of it


And heard the tape we were going nuts we new it was my wife by the tape then we had to beg for a meet with the medium who was leaving


The next day she did agree to see us before she left we met the next day when we walked in for an 1hr and 8 minutes it was all Mary Ann


My Dad did have a chance to put a few words in but Mary Ann Made sure we new it was her things nobody new except us or one Member


In the family Id say 90% no one else could have known She was assume


I would do it again in a heart beat.


All I can say is she is my true rock and I Love her with all my


Heart and we will be in the spirit world with all our relatives


When we cross over .


This medium was a true angle


                                                I hope people understand


 


My only problem is she is not here and we cant do the things we did every day and on holidays, kids , partys, Christmas etc.


We are going to work on it real hard to include her because she is always around us


I would love to talk to people about this any time


                                                  Thanks for reading


    My Rock

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Reply by KathCull_admin
17 Sep 2014, 3:21 AM

Hi,
My Rock I am glad you were able to post - thank you for persevering!

I appreciated being able to read the experience you, your family and friends had with the medium. I can 'feel' how much that comforted you. 

Hope you have a good rest tonight.
Katherine


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Reply by missie
30 Sep 2014, 2:25 AM

Well, here I am again, 3 and 1/2 months later..I am having "waves" and they are awful.I am upset that I can not find a support group I can go to here in the big city I live in, there isnt one that is a drop in. I have given up on it, and suffering because of it. I do appreciate this board, but I need to talk to others that are suffering, and can't find it, its all so hard. I just finished cleaning my house, I guess that is an "up"" side to things...I can't stand being this sad, for so long since January when my beau was diagnosed with terminal cancer, but June was even worse, when he passed.
Johnny Depp said it well, when he said,  --
You can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see,
but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel.--.
I don't want to feel this way...I want to scream!
I know you all feel this way...I hope you all have support. Take care,all of you,wish we could all be together in one place.
missy.
 
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Reply by NatR
30 Sep 2014, 3:18 AM

Hi Missy,

i am sorry you are having such a tough time and haven't found a contact in your town to get support.  I am thinking that perhaps you should try talking to your doctor? it's a place to start when you really need someone to talk to.  Perha

i know that others who post feel like you do. We all seem to Go through things in our own way and time.  I wanted you to know I read your note and heard you.  I hope that tomorrow you will be able to start your day knowing many feel much like you - varying levels of grief and loss.

this forum is a place where you can say things like it is.  sending you a virtual hug..
natR :) 
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Reply by NatR
30 Sep 2014, 3:21 AM

Hi missy

oops;) this board is playing games with me - I was trying to add that perhaps your doctors office might know of some support that is new  ~ someone to connect with - don't feel there is no hope, don't give up
natR 
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Reply by eKIM
30 Sep 2014, 6:21 PM

Hey Missy

Your story touches my heart.  I wish there was a group out there for you.  It seems you need a nice, big, warm Group Hug.


You may not be up for this challenge right now, but knowing how important it would be to you, do you think that with the help of others you could someday establish a "drop in" grief support group for other people to access?  

Having been a hospice volunteer for four years now, I find that for some people:

a) reaching out to others, who are hurting sometimes increase their own pain.

b) and for others, reaching out like this can   1) soften one's own pain by comforting others  and 2) give an extra purpose to one's life

Before embarking on such a venture, one would have to know oneself very well to determine if it would be a good thing (or not) to do.

Sending you VirtualHugs and best wishes.

eKim 

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