Welcome to the community MsKBK.
My sympathy - you along with Princess Peace, Harmony, MarksSister and BettyH have lost a dear family member and friend. "Firsts' can be so hard. Those words, "setting her free" - wonderful words for something that must have been so hard.
There are some words that made me think of you in an article on the Virtual Hospice site Grief Work, “Grief has been compared to waves that come and go. Some days the water is more turbulent or stormy, but on other days there is a sense of calm and a quiet lapping on the shore. Like the waves, grief has no endpoint. We can experience intense feelings of loss years after a death. Sometimes these feelings are triggered by a special date, event, or a significant time of the year, like the holiday season. Sometimes the trigger can be a song you hear on the radio or a smell or a passing thought”.
What supports have you found in 'the boonies' MsKBK? Are there others along with your sister-in-law?
Katherine