Hi
Mark99 – I really appreciated reading your blog and the links to the articles. These are things I have been thinking about – for example, “Grief is not a passive state you’re “getting through.” You must find a way to engage it, to sit with it, to mull it over." I don’t want to ‘waste’ time not feeling the grief and sadness – grief needs my time and attention. Another quote from a link on your blog, “In traditional cultures people were often given at least a year to digest a major loss.....Most people today might get a week of bereavement leave, at best, and then everything should be fine."
Tracy Mark99 mentions in his blog that in time past, our grief and loss and pain would be shared with our community. But we are often more isolated now and "people don't bring up his name at all". Jack sounds like he was a wonderful man – having been married to a Newfoundlander I always appreciate a good sense of humor.
But as you both said, this Virtual Hospice community is important and can give comfort because there is a shared understanding.
Mark I know you have already added your words to this thread but Tracy I thought you might be interested in checking it out if you have not already. What are your 3 words to describe our community
Take care
Katherine