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Multiple deaths.  
Started by Janesmith
10 May 2019, 6:38 PM

on dec 1 my brother passed away. Not suprising, but not expected. But the next day my sister passed away. That was a shock.  I have been working through this but one week ago my mom passed away. And i don’t know how to go on. She was my rock and now I have no one. I will take any advice on how to get through this. 
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Reply by NatR
14 May 2019, 9:10 PM

Dear janesmith,

please accept my condolences on the loss of your siblings, and your mom / no matter if it was expected or unexpected you will be sidelined by shock, pain, disbelief and loss.. and I am sure other feelings too.

this is a difficult and tragic time for you and I hope you will find the Forum is a place where you can share ask questions and be able to make some sense of it all.

i am just one person who writes responses, and I have experienced loss and grief also.  It’s different for each of us but so much is the same / anger for your loved ones being ripped away, guilty because you are left behind to cope, sadness that you can’t continue these relationships... so much, too much.

just knis that this is a safe place to share how you are feeling, and to get s response.  Sometimes just  having s listening ear and to vent is the purpose that helps the most 

please know you are embraced, and your story was heard.   
Know that you are stronger than you think, that you are resilient and that the difficulties we face in life teaches us a lot, and we support you. 

I look forward to other responses, aNd hope you will feel  that you are among friends 
please let us know if you are able to find a grief  support  group in your local area.  Honestly this is a lot for one person to deal with,   

I send you my support and my thoughts via this message
look forward to your reply
NatR ❤️ 
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Reply by barbcurt
15 May 2019, 12:39 AM

Hi Janesmith

I am sorry to learn of your loss.  Please accept my sincere condolences.  As one who has also sufferred loss I can only express to you how helpful it was to me to know there were people here for me.  Just to listen.  Knowing I was not alone helped a lot.  It is a terrible time to endure.

NatR has a knack with words that I am lacking.  Just know we are here for you.  We listen.  We don't judge. And when we can, we try to help.

Do what you must to take care of yourself.

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Reply by NatR
15 May 2019, 1:32 AM

Hi barbcurt,

thank you for responding To janesmith‘s note   I wish I was able to do more - but I am touched that a few thoughts from me helps a bit and that you also responded 

I know how scary it is to feel alone and I am glad this space exists for us all.
your stories, your grief, touch me also.  The reality of feelings poured out in words is something valuable ... you give your heart which is hurting, and I always see that communicactions even between strangers is of value 

sending my thoughts
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