Hi CarrieK:
I know you intend your message for Caron and I'm sure she will respond the next time she visits to our forum, but it is late on the eve of the Easter long weekend, and I just want to ensure you that someone is listening to you pour out your heart and caring about your feelings.
I am so sorry that your husband was struck with such a serious and life limiting illness in his prime. You are completely right, unless someone has suffered the same thing you and he are both going through they cannot know fully the extent of how frightened you both feel.
I know I want to understand, and I do empathize with you, but I will never tell you I know exactly how you feel because I have never had to face such heartbreak, but the kind of heartbreaks I have experienced have been made more bearable simply because of the care and kindness of others. It made a difference to me in my situations, and I hope that knowing others do care about the pain and terror you are suffering will give you some comfort.
I want to help and assure you that you and Caron are not alone and while your heart is broken and your life is filled with anxiety about what to expect, I hope that by reaching out and writing to us here it will help in some small way. I know it's not enough to make a huge difference all at once, but perhaps the more you reach out and unburden yourself from the weight of everything you carrying alone, while caring for and about your husband, and worrying about your kids, that little by little, day by day, we will add to your emotional strength through support and conversation. I know you need to help you cope because we all do. We are human and life's circumstances sure put our humanity to the test as you know better than I. I hope you will find the kind of help that you'll be able to relate to here in the Virtual Hospice community.
If you want to talk tonight, I'll be listening. If you prefer to wait for Caron or others to respond that's ok too and I will understand. You are one of us now. We are with you. Hugs from me to you! xo
Cath1