Hi Bizzy,
You poor girl! This is so much for you to have to deal with. Does your boyfriend not have any family members that could help you? It sounds like you are tiptoeing around and doing your best to make him happy but at what cost to you?
Has there been any talk about hospitalizing him at all? I understand that he probably wants to pass away at home but it sounds like it's becoming very difficult for you to take care of him. I remember how tough it is to have to deal with wills and final wishes as it makes it all too real.
You are talking about swelling. It might be that his kidneys aren't functioning properly at this point..That could be why he is sleeping standing up because it eases the pressure. I'm sure that the doctor will be able to give you more information tomorrow. That must be so frightening to have him sleep standing up and have the worry of him falling down. When you talk about the changes in him the past few weeks, it reminds me of certain facial changes I noticed in my partner as his illness progressed. Nothing that I could really pinpoint, just something different. Is that what you are noticing?
Having invested so much time and love into caring for him, have you given any thought to what you will do in the future? Do you work on top of all of this? It's good to know that you have joined many groups and reached out for support in as many ways as possible. It's an important thing to keep connected to the outside world so that you don't feel so alienated.
I hope that your new lamp helps you feel a bit better. At the risk of sounding stupid, what is the hcg diet? Seventy pounds is alot of weight to lose in a year. I imagine the stress also plays a role in the weight loss.
Know that we are here to listen to you and try to bring you some comfort on this journey.
Hugs,
Tracie