Dear Kathy:
I just read about what's happening with your mom, you and your family. It seems to be a hard, sad and stressful situation. I am sending you my best wishes and thoughts.
I also want to tell you that I really admire everything that you have done for her. I can tell that you are a great daughter and I believe your mom knows this. She is lucky to have you!
You mentioned before that she is tired and exhauted and that your siblings wanted her to be around for christmas. Then you mentioned that your siblings had accepted that she's going to die soon. I am glad this happened. This is the opportunity to tell her everything you need to say, be with her, tell her how much you love her and how much she'll be missed.
I have seen a lot of families take advantage of this time. This is something you won't regret.
Do you have a booklet that explains how the body shuts down. These are good guides that let you identify and understand what's happening. If you do keep it handy, if you don't you can ask the nurse, doctor or volunteer to give you one.
Please keep us posted. I'll be thinking about you.