Hi Pudding,
What you are feeling is normal, given your circumstances, even though everything about the situation feels anything but normal.
Try not to dwell too much on the future, since we have little or no control over it. It was heartbreaking for me to know that my mom would never meet my children (I have yet to have any still!). Before she died she did get to meet my brother’s first child and she was very happy about that. About 2 weeks after my mom died, my sister found out she was pregnant. She named her son Graham which was my Mom’s maiden name. The day after he was born, was the first time I felt sheer happiness after my mom died. I like to think her spirit it with us all the time.
Plum’s words about your love for your Mom directing your actions at this time will give you serenity in the end, resonated with me. When I was caring for my mom, I decided I would give her the best care I could because then I would have no regrets after she passed.
Stay in touch, we are happy to help,
GWTBB