Hi TracieBugs,
Here’s a beautiful post I read today…just had to share with you!
Everything you do is based on the choices you make!
It’s not your parent’s, your past relationships, your job,
the economy, the weather, an argument, or you age
that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for
every decision and choice you make!
There, enough said for our children…take back our life and let our girls know exactly what it is…if only it were that easy hey? LOL.
I’m glad things are moving forward with the realtor – there is a reason for everything, and I think the other realtor was sent as you may not have been ready to sell the house…? WOW, that is awesome news about your house, I sure hope it works out for you…you definitely need some sort of good luck on this!!!
I hear you about how everything seems to have some crazy attachment to the end or ongoing result! It just seems to happen and I’m sure we just shake our heads and wonder for a moment, and then move on to the next item/issue. If we stay too long on one item, it will just eat us away and it makes it that much harder to actually move on with life!
Well, it sounds like your step-daughter still has her issues to deal with – I’m so glad you are strong and able enough to know what exactly you want to keep and what you are willing to share with the family…especially the more expensive items. I believe memories are more important than items, as items cannot replace the memories. The only item I have from my grandma (other than my good looks…LOL), is a bowl…just a plain old bowl, but I remember it so well. It’s one of those bowls made of some sort of “enamel steel”…and she kept buns or fruit in it. So now, I put my fruit in it to display..and eat! I have a few items from my dad; every time he came to visit me in the NWT, he would have a gift for me. Plus the items over the years, a painted gold pan from the Yukon; a broach with my initial – every now and then I find something he gave me and think about when he gave it to me…awwwww, memories!
Like you, I sometimes wish I could have done somethings, like stayed home with my daughters, but I know each decision and action made, was made or decided for a reason. Our choices are ok, they were what our situation was at the time, as you stated earlier… J
Well, I’ve had an epiphany! I had a very stressful evening – our daughter is NOT behaving AT ALL! And it is causing stress to me, as I know Don has held her to such a high standard and is not meeting it these days. Sleeps in, not looking for work, we’re not sure if her bills are getting paid and just doing NOTHING! She isn’t helping with the cooking or cleaning, or doing her daughters laundry. I stopped doing my granddaughter’s laundry about 1 month ago and it shows. I feel bad for her, but I cannot take on that responsibility anymore. We used to drive her to the dayhome if our daughter wasn’t up in the morning – nope, not anymore. I feel taken advantage of, and feel that our daughter has just pure lazy! There!!!
Anyway, on to my epiphany…I was thinking about all my stressors (I think I counted 9 previously) and I was wondering why am I so unhappy…why can’t I just be happy, because our guest left the house….I should be happy, then it dawned on me…as one stressor is gone, another automatically takes its place. I can’t take all 9 stressors on all at once, so as one is eased, I have about 1-5 days of happiness, and then I’m completely stressed again!
I’ve also realized who my friends are – one friend of 30 years actually deleted me off of FaceBook…what the heck! I couldn’t believe it. I’ve also had several friends fall away from me…good friends too, and others who had no obligation to me, step up to the plate and check up on me on a regular basis. This is so strange as I never expected it to happen this way. I really expected my long time friends to help me through this, or at least communicate with me once in a while…WOW. My lil’ sister also tries to comfort me…LOL. I find that amusing, as I am the comforter in our family and when she does it, I just smile and tell her, not now…I will let you know when I need you.
Well, work is calling – I’m going to have my lunch then do some work related stuff.
Keep on moving forward, it’s great to hear your accomplishments regularly. You are one strong lady and I admire your ability to take the good with the bad and move forward regardless of what needs to be done. Sending you some AB sunshine today. Take care my friend.
Deb