Hi Tracie,
Whew!!! It’s been awhile since we’ve “chatted”. I finally had a chance to read your last two postings and respond! It’s been a trying October, but as usual we got through it ok!
My luncheon with my girls went great – we talked, laughed and caught up. The ultra-sound shows I’m going to have another granddaughter. I’m elated! I keep asking my girls to name one of their babies after me…but no…geesh, you would think they knew my name meant strength, woman of strength, love, compassion…LOL.
In your second to last posting you mentioned you had a tiff with your youngest – I hope it all turned out well. I know we had discussions before about our children – I know I shake my head at mine every now and then, then think back to when I was young and decisions I’ve made…heehee! BUT, they still can be frustrating and definitely trying at times! Did your oldest help you out as promised?
Wow, when it rains it sure pours hey! I’m waiting for that day when it pours you all the money you are owed, as opposed to the added expenses of the washer/dryer and car. Did your youngest get a car yet? It sounds like your girls are on the right path towards a great career…education is always the best path! I keep drilling that in my kiddies head and for the most part, ¾, have followed through with education. My youngest is also pursuing the psychology program; she wants a better understanding of her disease, and she wants to be a social worker…I ASK WHY!!! I guess if it is something she wants, then I will support her however I can. You must be very proud of yourself, give yourself a pat on the back – it would have been so easy for your girls to drop out of school, rather than continue; but because they have such great values and ethics, they chose to continue in spite of what they have gone through. A huge smile for you, and congratulations!
My mom didn’t come and visit…however, that was a good thing…imagine that!!!! Don is getting stronger, however, I’m not too sure of the strength he has is sufficient. He has a pre-op on Thursday, so they should tell him then if he is strong enough to go through with this surgery!
I know it’s hard to take that step forward to get on anti-depressants; you do what you have to do…stay on them, or get off them. Having to have a clear mind to get through what has happened over the last year probably saved you from going on them. At this point, your decision will be yours to make. You know your body and mind better than anyone else.
OMG, is all I can say about your lawyer! What a &*$*%&*#&$*…sorry for such harsh language. I still can’t believe you haven’t received the settlement. Have you called his agency lately? What does your useless brother say? …AND don’t get me started with the brother…wait, let me calm down here J How’s that!? I hope things turn around soon Tracy, if not for the stressful situation in, then at least for your health.
Well, what’s been going on in my life? At this point, I really couldn’t tell you. All I know is each day for the last two weeks, I’ve encountered some form of stress in multitudes or another! My dear friend, this ol’ gal is now in full blown menopause! That’s been quite a shock to my body, mind, and life! I eat everything in my line of sight; overheat like crazy; go psycho on hubby and then bawl because of my bad behaviour. I talk with people, and cannot remember the simplest of words, or just stop in mid-sentence because I cannot remember what I was talking about. I quit exercising, because I’m tired all the time, and have no motivation to run (why run, I’m just old…type of attitude). It’s been a very depressing time. When I went to see my doctor, she talked about putting me on meds (to control my hormones). At this point, it’s too early so I declined. My blood pressure is through the roof again, so I’m back to seeing her once a month L. I don’t know Tracie…as I put my hands over my face and rub my eyes.
How was your Thanksgiving? Did you have a dinner, get invited out to dinner? Ours was really really quiet! Our granddaughter went out of town to meet her grandparents up north (on her father’s side); she was gone from Friday to Monday; our daughter, who lives with us, spent the weekend at her beau’s; so I invited a very good friend and my niece over for dinner. I just cooked a chicken with all the fixings; we didn't have any leftovers, which is quite different from the past. Our past dinners included 12-25 people; with a huge turkey, 3-4 salads, 3 sides and at least 3 different vegetables. It was good to spend time with my niece, she’s so quiet and reserved; kinda reminds me of me when I was her age (but I was shy, she isn’t). My good friend stayed over until around 9 pm, which was great, because I’ve been so lonely lately.
It seems I’m always alone now! Granddaughter and daughter have a life of their own (along with all my daughters and their children/families); so in the evening, I would put my granddaughter to bed; daughter will go out for the night; Don is in bed early and I am in the living room watching my shows or cleaning. Unfortunately, there are very few shows on TV that we watch together, different tastes, so he’s watching TV upstairs and me in the living room. That was one of the issues too, just being so lonely, but not being able to do anything about it. If I want to go out, then it’s a short outing. My poor hubby, he can’t even go out! I visited with a friend from Vancouver on Saturday, from 10:30am-1:30pm and it was so good to be talking with someone who knew just me; the conversation didn’t focus on Don…it was about just my friend and I. I actually cried when he asked how was I doing? I will take myself out to dinner at least once a week – I just go to BP’s, because I feel safe there, order my dinner and a glass of wine. Just before I’m done dinner, I will order Don’s dinner. I tell him I’m eating at the restaurant, and he totally understands. I so would love to join a support group, but can’t take time away from him; plus I’m in bed by 9 now!!!! That drives me crazy too. I go to bed early, just totally exhausted and not able to stay up any longer; then I am up at 2 or 3am!!!! Wide awake!!! So you can see, my minds been in a turmoil and my body’s been acting up too…LOL…I know this isn’t for much longer. I think it is the long dark nights that are affecting me this way…plus the menopause and being alone.
I was going through some papers and came across a few names of friends who have discontinued their communication with me since this all began. It’s really quite strange that some very good friends/family would even consider doing this – I know we had this conversation before; but there was something in your last posting that reminded me of this; I think it had to do with your step-daughter and niece and brother. I hope someday they all realize how much pain they’ve caused us. It would be so nice, if someone just drops by, whether by phone, knock on the door, email, text, anything, just to say, hey! How are you doing? I’ve just realized how important this is and perhaps I’ve caused pain to others. I hope I never do that again! A few weeks ago, I received a FB message, from a good friend, asking me what was my landline number. So I gave it to her, she called; she was just down the street and wanted to visit. That just made my day! So in return, I invited her for thanksgiving dinner, and she accepted. It’s the little things that people do (or we do) that puts a smile on our face or someone else’s face that brings such joy to our hearts.
I’ve also been sick with the flu/cold since Thursday, so that’s been a bit of a damper. I still get up and cook for Don; still get him his snacks and drinks, without complaint :) . Well, on that note, I will end my long posting. Take care my dear friend, I do apologize for the delay in responding, but I am now a happy camper, because I’ve responded. This gives me such pleasure to give and receive our postings. Take care of yourself, and please let me know how you are doing through all this stress you’ve been under. Great big hugs, smiles and also, sunshine,
Deb