Hello Aphasia Sufferer’s Daughter
I, like you, am relatively new to the Virtual Hospice Discussion community. This thread was started by frustrated just over a year ago – and reading the postings I see how much support has been shared in that time.
I am not a Downton Abbey watcher – but I had heard about the death of Lady Mary’s husband through friends and facebook. I found your analogy very insightful.
You talked too of finding people to accompany us and walk with us – so critical wherever we are in life isn't it. I have found that our warm, virtual community members – do just that. We often don’t need to be told what to do; we need someone to walk with us, to listen to us and hear us and support us. And although our circumstances, feelings and thoughts may be similar – we are unique beings - no one is the same. So what is good for me may not be for someone else.
That is not always easy for me – I am great at wanting to ‘fix’ things. A good lesson taught by a wonderful teacher has stayed with me over 20 years. I walked into a patient’s room and saw that she ‘looked’ to be uncomfortable. Without a word or question, I began to fluff her pillows and fix her blankets. When I finished I said, “Is that better?” She responded, with kindness, “I hope it is for you!”
Did you get a chance to look at eKIM’s threads? Self Care for the Caregiver and the Child Within or Can a caregiver ever truly be carefree, even for a moment?
Katherine