Dear Lilbear,
Just want to add my voice of support and affirmation. I, too, am glad that you are now home and able to sleep in your own bed. Home can, hopefully, also offer you and your children the bit of "normalcy" that you have mentioned. I am sure you need it as much as they do.
Of course, being home means that you are close to your Dad again and want to be visiting him. The balancing of caring for so many people at home and in the hospital is an enormous challenge. Please keep reminding yourself that you are human, and it is critical that you care for yourself. There is quite a road still ahead, and you will never make it yourself if you are not taking time off and allowing others, like your brother, to take over at times. I am very happy for you that your brother is showing more care and empathy than you may have expected. Maybe you will even allow yourself to ask him to give you some free days or parts of days while he steps in with visits. That is what love and family are about. It is the sharing, and being for each other that will draw you closer together, and give you strength to go on. You may be giving your brother a great gift in giving him the opportunity to share his time and love.
My love and prayers are with you!
Mary-Ellen