Dear Springday,
have read the above messages and feel so much like giving you a hug right now.
not only are you dealing with the illness and impending loss of your mom, but you are getting little or no support from your husband.
not knowing you in any way, but having gone through some learning curves in my life ( ongoing process I am afraid) please Insert smile here :) - I want to throw you a life preserver of sorts.
Tracie gave you wonderful advice and support - regarding counselling, talking things out, distractions and down time - all great things to try - and it sounds like you are doing some of those.
my comment on all those distractions is that they would work 100% of the time if we could just take our brains out - really stop thinking about all the bad and scary things - then pop it back on after a much needed break!
since we can't do that, we carry our worries and concerns in the back of our thoughts always.
Being a caregiver, being a daughter caring for her mother, you deserve all the kindness and support you can get.
here on the Forum, you have the perfect place. We don't judge, we have felt grief and loss, we try to help you and others as you go though that tough time.
i know things are overwhelming you. I hear you saying that your husband seems to be expecting more from you and he can't give you what you need either
by the way, you do deserve all the support you can get. If he can't give it, rely on those who can. Try to avoid a big argument or battle, but carry on doing what you feel in your heart to do.
you Can do this. Your mom deserves your attention and love.
so keep strong - keep focused And come here to cry, shout, vent, or what ever you need to do
You matter, you are doing your best. One thing at a time is enough - try and avoid arguments and extra stress - I know - an impossible task, but still hoping you can try
sending you a big hug for all you are carrying, for all you are doing for your mom.
best wishes, take a deep breath and write back,
you are not alone,
sincerely,
NatR