So as you know my son's dad has Stage 4B throat cancer and is doing 35 radiation treatments with chemo in there too., he has completed 8 so far & I'm thinking he is doing ok, better than I thought. Still a long way to go I know or feels like it.
I am unsure of how I feel., people were not talking and now there's quite a few who are now asking I get so much feed back about this situation - i try not to think about what others think you knwho have come forw. just shocked and didn't know how to deal with or talk which is ok.
But now, seriously no one's business really but I am going to be moving into my son's dad house to help out be there for our son and him, and people are like holy that is quite something. treating me like I'm some kinda saint or something you know - I don't get it but at same time - I just dont see the big deal.
My son's father who is my EX of 15 years., we have always been close due to our son, we do all birthdays, xmas, vacations etc. together, we haven't lived together for 15 years. We get along really well moreso than a lot of EX's., which we have always gotten feedback on - like we don't see ex's act the way you too do., last year I threw him a surprise birthday., and I was his main contact person for dr's/nurses when he had kidney cancer & in ICU for 2 months back in NOV/13.
So he has cancer again and will need help at the house our son is in Grade 12 & it is crunch time for him right now and will also be working in construction for summer so he has a lot on his place right now as well as his hockey, girlfriend, graduation etc., right now .
So I am moving our of my basement suite and will be moving in with him., to take care of him, be there for my son too., it is a choice I FEEL is important moreso for my son to support him and be there for him #1 so he does not have to deal (lack of a better word) with his dad all by himself while he is so ill or will be so ill. Yes his dad will require to help out in all areas., so it all works out better this way, makes sense.
Last time he had cancer I saw my suite twice for 15 mins each time in 4.5 months so paid for a place I did not even live in., so that is why it makes sense to me this time - you know.
Every one acts like I'm some kind of angel or something., I kinda don't like the way people are taking this., take me of the pedastel please - am I wrong in this., I don't get it - I seriously do not get people. I am doing what needs to be done period - no one would allow a injured person or animal be on their own - would they? I may not be expressing myself clearly here.
Maybe I'm just frustrated or ??? I so don't want to move but feel I have too and I'm resigned to it now and accept it now period. (took me a few weeks too)
I have felt which only a couple of people know - is why do I have to up end my life for you - why? You dont have family or friends and that is not my fault - so why should I do this? These are fleeting thoughts., but they come and go., I am human.
i do it because I care and love and have compassion and feel a strong sense of duty ? maybe wrong choice of words not duty hmmm. No one wants to see another person in harms way or hurt or sad etc., no one wants to see another being suffer period & that moreso than anything else is why. But do I have to explain myself to anyone else - noI do not.
I may sound like a "B" but I mean I don't have to explain myself to others because I'mmoving inwith my EX while he's going to be going thru & dealing with treatments and hopefully gets better - you know.
Thank you for listening to me hash it out here :) I do what i NEED to do for me & my son., we are his examples in life why not do it right
LOVE the saying - hey it's none of my business what you think of me lol