Hi Melinda,
It's a long time since I posted to your thread Melinda. I have to tell you how amazed I am at your ability to 'look after everything' - Stan's physical and emotional needs, keep tabs on his buddy, be aware of his deteriorating health and the likelihood of bleeding and how to comfort him should that happen while you are there, looking after the rest of your family, your home, your work. Added to that your own physical and emotional tiredness, waiting for ‘something’ to happen, I would imagine some fear, lots of uncertainty, sadness and anticipating what Stan’s death will mean for you and life as you know it. I don’t know Stan but it seems like you having that discussion and making the decision about DNR(as you did Tracie) may have eased the load for him.
Take care Melinda (and you too Tracie and Cathie)
Katherine