Good morning all,
Marymary, it sounds as though you are between a rock and a hard place - even more so because your son's wellbeing is so important. Has your son’s father been offered support through any of the clinics and doctors he visits? I am thinking counselling supports? I know he may not be interested or feel that it is necessary for him. What about you and your son – are there people (perhaps professionals) who can give ideas and support?
I may be completely in left field here but I wondered if the article (or parts of it) Spirituality and Life-Threatening Illness might be helpful in understanding your son’s father. Let me know what you think. Just reading,
“If a life-threatening illness has intruded into your life, you are probably experiencing tremendous upheaval. Most of us spend much of our lives trying to avoid thinking too much about the end of life. Now, you may begin to evaluate your life and think seriously about death and dying, perhaps for the first time. You must learn how to live with your illness and the possibility of death. Even if you hold no particular religious beliefs, you may find yourself dealing with issues of a spiritual nature, such as identity, suffering and hope. What makes such issues spiritual is that they raise questions about the meaning of life – life in general and your life in particular. Your spirituality is shaped by the answers you give these questions.”
I haven’t seen Dee64 on any of the other forums Marymary.
I appreciate your wise words NatR – a person can get lost while caring for someone else who has seemingly overwhelming needs.
So… take care of yourself Marymary.
Katherine