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Recent Diagnosis Support 
Started by NT
23 Jul 2015, 10:08 PM
A close family member has been recently diagnosed with thyroid cancer. Still waiting for staging after waiting three months for biopsy due to perceived low risk for malignancy by the doctor. This person is a young adult and is having alot of difficulty talking about it. Easier to avoid and "act normal".  I would like to be able to provide support and comfort but need to be careful not to overstep. Any tips?
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Reply by KathCull_admin
23 Jul 2015, 11:46 PM
Welcome to the discussion forum. I am glad you found us. Waiting is so hard - no matter if the risk is seen as low or not. I wonder if he/she is trying to 'act normal' because it protects them from being overwhelmed. I remember one person telling me that when they heard the word 'cancer' it was like a hot fire going through them.

I know that others on this forum will offer their support the tips as well.

Are there things you can do together - like going for lunch or walk or a movie? 


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Reply by Razz
26 Jul 2015, 1:55 PM
Welcome NT.  

I'm sorry to hear that this young person is facing such a concerning situation - it must be very hard for them and the family.  It's wonderful that you want to reach out to this person and sometimes just knowing that there is someone "there" for them is all that is needed at this time.

My husband has always been very good at "we'll cross that bridge when we get to it" while I tend to be the one that rushes forward following the trail of "what ifs".  I have found that his method often saves a lot of grief and worry.  This family member will come to what is happening to them on their own terms in their own time; which is often the hardest part for those of us who want to "help".  Right now they are just processing the information they have been given and must also wait to find out the direction the direction this diagnosis will lead them.  That is a lot to deal with.  

I think that just letting them know that if they want to talk about it you're willing and able to listen.  They will be comforted to know that they have someone in their "corner" but will also appreciate having someone who is not peppering them with questions or pushing them for a response.

All the best -Razz  

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Reply by NT
23 Aug 2015, 10:51 PM
Thank you so much for your response to my posting. I agree with you about letting her know that I am there for her when she is ready to talk. Tough to do as I watch her dietary habits ingesting known cancer loving fuels (for example sugar). I have a wealth of knowledge that she is not ready to hear but I have backed off and let her lead the way.  It is very helpful to hear you reinforce the notion of "crossing that bridge when we get to it". Sage advise. Thanks again.
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Reply by KathCull_admin
08 Sep 2015, 9:12 PM
I have been away for a bit. I was re-reading this thread and wondered how you and your young friend were doing NT. You are so right - Razz offers very sage advice.  

I also found this online resource that you might be interested in Difficult Conversations  out of the UK.

I would be interested to know if either of you find it helpful.

Take care until we talk again.
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