Good Evening.
I read your posts, and while different, it is similar.
It is difficult to be angry or frustrated at those we have lost. I lost my best friend in August. If I'm being honest......4 months later there is a distinct part of me that doesn't believe it actually happened. It was a solid battle after a 2 year terminal dx.......but it was....indeed that. Her denial left conversations unsaid....left peace denied...and is for me, haunting and regrettful in some ways. I hope that in time I wil be able to recognize that it was her way, and that I stood strong in my role to be supportive, and understanding, and unselfish.
but that time has not come yet.
A strange holiday season indeed. She was my friend....simply that. My best friend.
She had no family, so the decisions and the procedures and the end of life care was mine to give. I did so...it helped me in my process......i think.
my heart aches for those who are left out of the procedure and process of understanding...and being knowledgable and being involved. I guess it is both a blessing and a curse...depending on your perspective.
Me, I have tried to keep busy through the holiday season, although the role of not being needed does weight heavily.
It is a difficult cross to bear. I wish for you strenght....I wish for you clarity......I wish for you peace.
Thoughts to those in difficult times.
WM