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Life Lesson 
Started by jachro
08 Dec 2012, 3:23 AM

Like it says in my icon "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain". This is something I heard years ago when I thought my life couldn't get any worse. At the time I took it as just another platitude from a well meaning but clueless friend. But over the years it seems to have become something I try to remember anytime things start going south. I hope by passing this on it will affect someone else the same way.
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Reply by eKIM
09 Dec 2012, 1:36 AM

Hi Jachro, welcome to Virtual Hospice – the more contributors the better.  I love the anonymity of this site.  We can reach out with all the honesty of our hearts, without fear of being judged.  Those who contribute tend to be compassionate listeners and are not judgmental by nature. 

If you need to talk about the time when, as you said, “when I thought my life couldn't get any worse”, if it pertains to a trauma during a health challenge of yours or a loved one, you have found the right place.  There will be someone who has experience in palliative care, death and dying.  They can relate to you and respond.

With regard to your posting, you never know when your words will help someone just at the right time.  That is the lasting benefit of Virtual Hospice.

I do see the truth in your quote, "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain".  The key word, I believe is “learning”.  This suggests a journey to a destination unclear, with an indefinite timeline.

Wisdom often disguises itself in platitudes.  Sometimes our intellect balks at accepting the obvious at face value.  People can be misjudged as clueless, especially if they have not walked the path that you have.  You have to give well-meaning souls a break – they simply don’t know what to say or do.  But at least they try.  Sadder is the reality of friends who don’t even try to reach out.

It seems that when people are in times of stress, they tend, not only think in complicated patterns, but simplicity seems to go right over their heads.  It’s no wonder that clarity is long in coming.

Dancing in the rain is difficult when the rain is your tears.  The “storm” will pass, yes, but we have to prepare ourselves for the storm to re-appear from time to time.  And there will be more “rains of tears”.  All we can hope for as time passes is that the duration of time between storms lengthens and that we learn how to be kinder to ourselves, so that through the love of others, and through self-love, we can heal more easily.


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