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QUOTE: The Restorative Power of Tears 
Started by eKIM
12 Jun 2014, 1:57 PM

“Tears are good.  What flows is alive.  Crying is like a thundershower for the soul.  The air feels so wonderful after the rain.  Don’t think too much.  Breathe.  Don’t be harsh or demanding on yourself.  Just experience your feelings and know that your tears are announcing change in your life.  Change is coming; like a summer rain – to wash away your pain.  Have faith that things are getting better.  – Bryant McGill

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Reply by eKIM
12 Jun 2014, 1:58 PM

It is said that, “There is nothing like a good cry.  I do appreciate that crying can be very therapeutic and cathartic.  Women and men can benefit from a good cry. 

However, I envy women.  Over my lifetime, I have observed that most women can cry at the drop of a hat and come away refreshed and restored.  In my experience, I have observed that most men cannot cry so easily – including me.  I do cry, but rarely.

Now I know that there are many exceptions, but does that invalidate stereotypes?  Especially when the vast majority display the stereotypical behaviour?

I consider myself a sensitive man.  I had a wonderfully sensitive mother.  I have a wife and two daughters as role models of sensitivity. 

Going to a movie always brings on a debate in our house.  My wife prefers “thrillers”, I love “romantic comedies” 

At hospice - where I volunteer - I love to comfort the residents and families during the “end of life” journey.  At hospice, I am surrounded by scores of sensitive women.  So many tears, you practically. need a lifejacket.  I’m the tearless hugger of the bunch – the comforter, the encourager, the listener.

So where are my tears?  What does this say about me (if anything), if I have such difficulty mustering a tear or a good cry – even during the most saddening of experiences? 

Is it simply because I am male, or am I falling back on stereotypes which are not true at all?  I wish I knew.   ~ eKim

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