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Quote: The power of human touch 
Started by eKIM
25 Jul 2014, 2:34 PM

I love giving and receiving hugs.  Sometimes because of circumstances or geography, it is not possible to hold the hand or hug someone who is hurting.  So what then?

How about hugging someone else, even a stranger who is hurting, someone who is carrying a heavy burden?

If everyone reached out with a compassionate hug or the holding of hand to every hurting soul that they met, then I believe it would be a much nicer world. 

When a hurting soul meets a compassionate soul, wonderful things happen.

I just returned from a shift this evening as a hospice resident support volunteer.  I spent time with a dying woman whose husband had passed away many years ago.  I sat and spoke with her distraught daughter.  I also spent time with another person who was going through some very, very tough personal times, but was slowly on the mend.

These three people had one need in common.  There was no one there to hold their hand, to hold them in their arms.  Somehow I was able to feel that a holding of a hand and a hug was needed and I held them tenderly.  In all three cases, my gesture was well received. 

I am not trying to “toot my own horn” by writing this.  I write this with a sincere hope that those who read these words will understand the power of human touch. 

Very often an act of loving-kindness can never be reciprocated simply due to circumstances.  However the beauty of love is that it is self-perpetuating through random distribution.

I hope that people will reach out to those around them who are going through rough times.  Sure it is good to follow the maxim “Always be kinder than necessary, you never know the burden that someone is carrying.”  But as you do so, you realize a wonderful gift.  The “bonus parting gift” is the wonderful feeling that will stay with you for a long, long time.  It is the other side of the same coin: “If you do good, you are supposed to feel good.”

-       eKim

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Reply by eKIM
25 Jul 2014, 2:36 PM

“I am a strong person, but every once in a while I’d like someone to take my hand and tell me that everything is going to be alright.”  - unknown

This was the quote for the above.  - eKim 

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Reply by marstin
27 Jul 2014, 5:38 PM

I have learned many lessons in the past two years since Len passed away. I have learned that most of the people you thought would be there for you are not and have expectations of how long a person is allowed to grieve.

On the flip side of this I have found strangers and acquaintances who have brought me such comfort just by reaching out to give me a hug or to take the time out of their busy day just to listen. When my Mom passed away, it was a total stranger who saw that I was in distress and quickly came and gave me a hug and calmed my tears. I had a woman who I only knew from a distance, grab me by the hand, hug me and sit me down and listen to my pain. I have more of these 'angel' stories and I truly believe that it is people who understand how incredibly lonely this journey is that have kept me from falling apart.

I have learned to pay more attention to others and recognize pain and do my best to bring comfort to others who are in distress. No longer can I walk by someone and pretend that I don't see the haunted look in their eyes. This enlightenment helps me to see the world in a whole different light and although the journey has been a difficult one, I appreciate the lessons it has taught me.

I agree with you eKim, giving a hug or holding someone else's hand in their time of need is a powerful feeling. Just knowing that you made a difference is someone else's life is a reward in itself.

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