Good Morning to All:
VJ I understand and support any of your decisions to put your husband into care or hospice. Reality comes and as caregivers the hard decision must be made, do we keep on caring for husband/or other and get ill ourselves but go through the turmoil of placing a loved one in care. It is always guilt or thinking I have not done enough caring for my loved one and so we carry on even though we are ill and weakened more each day.
It is interesting that this came up as I was going through much of the same dilema as you, yesterday and the day before, I noted that John, my husband, seemed very disoriented. Asked him what he wanted and he replied I don;t know, then asked for pills for his stomach, etc. The few days befre he couldn;t remember what day it was and insisted on various other dates, etc. even though I reassured him.
Getting good care in an care centre bothers me also, there are so few and far between and often have to travel miles from where we live so I depend on palliative care and still am able to look after John. We are fortunate to have children who come and visit and help me with daily chores etc. We get care for bathing, etc. and I have learned to use 911 in case he falls or other.
I share you despair and understand the feelings one has when you have to make difficult decisions so please keep in touch with our group as we all have or are going through much of what you are at this time. We understand and although we are not profesisonals we experienced the anxiety, anger, sorrow and all the feelings that go on when caring for a loved one who has many different problems with their health.
Take care
Xenia