Hello Tonto,
thanks for posting your questions and your frustrations
i cannot give you personal advice as I have not walked in your shoes - I do hope that someone else will add to this thread and offer their input
frankly as a former Psw /caregiver, your situation sounds “frustratingly normal” for what you are going through
I can only say that you are dealing with so much, you are the level headed one, you are getting the brunt of your husbands anger and frustration because you are close to him - and although it’s difficult to do - biting your lip, counting to ten, walking away for a minute - will help keep things calm
i hope you can figure out a way that works for you
you are always free to write your concerns here / a journal of sorts to get it all out
hardly helpful I am afraid - but I can feel your dedication, your concern, and I know your husband isn’t making any of this easy for you.... he is dealing with a lot too
so I apologise for not having good answers / sometimes there aren’t any really good answers - but you aren’t alone - you aren’t unheard.
plesee write back when you can and let me and others reading this how things are going. That’s what it’s all about - listening, supporting and encouraging
you will never regret doinb this - you have my thoughts tonight and I send you a hug 🤗 via this format
sincerely
NatR 🌷