Hi Sunshine12,
Welcome to Virtual Hospice. I'm glad that you found us so that you don't have to be alone with your thoughts, doubts and anguish. This is not a situation with clear or simple answers, but we can listen.
If you read the thread started a while back by idontknow you'll see a few parallels. How can I get my brother who has cancer to let us in.
Everyone's situation is different of course. In fact, you may wish to write to our team of experts on Ask a Professional.
Does your brother live alone? Do you get news of him from other family members or friends?
Colleen
PS: I removed your duplicate post so that you don't have to keep track of 2 simultaneous conversations. I'll direct everyone here.