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Reply by Xenia
30 Jan 2016, 5:55 PM

Dear Jim:

You are exhausted to the point where everything becomes a burden and hard to do many things that once were simply part of the daily living.

You are carrying the weight of your beloved Sarah, your grandchild and somewhere Jim became lost in the maze of caring for others.  As Nounce stated exhaustion is the daily companion of caregivers and somewhere we lose ourselves and wake up with all you describe in your message.

I wish I could remove the burden you carry on your shoulders and lighten your load.  Each of us faces or faced the exhuastion with different means, Old Bat with Music, others with anger, others with sleep.  I do not begin to tell you how to get through each moment of the day other than to let you know your friends on CVH are reaching out to you in support of your daily trials offering you a hand to help you through each day.

Many of my days of exhaustion were helped by listening to music and even though I am pretty strong I had to turn to my spirituality to get me through some very dark times to help lift some of the exhaustion and help me get through the day.

I am sending you a virtual hug and a shoulder to lean on and prayers to help you through these very hard times.

Hugs and Love to All:

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Reply by KathCull_admin
14 Feb 2016, 3:30 AM

Hi everyone,
Just wanted you all to know - yes every one of you:) I think of you often. Take care.
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Reply by Jimmie
14 Feb 2016, 11:39 AM

Katherine and All:

I have spent the last few weeks training a motley crew of rather dishevelled crows which has taken up residence in the scrawny pine tree in our neighbour's yard.  I have fed them each morning scraps from my latest culinary toast triumph of the night before.  It's been a rough winter down here, and the crows, in their fashion, have been appreciative of my solicitude and therefore tolerant of my rather rigorous training sessions.  Yesterday was graduation day.  Each of the crows, having studied my hand drawn map of Canada, picked up the mini pita bread pockets I designed (filled with candy hearts) in his or her sturdy beak, and rising into the bewildered air, headed West North West (and South South West in one case).  I trust everyone on this site will receive my Valentine's day treats and notes of affection in due course if my messengers can resist the urge to eat their messages along the way.

Should any one of you see a somewhat shamefaced crow today or tomorrow in the proximity of your abode, please be kind to the penitent.  It meant well.  Sometimes the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak - even for crows.

Happy Valentines Day, everyone.  The sun also rises.

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Reply by oldbat
14 Feb 2016, 4:22 PM

Hi Jimmie,

One just landed on my window sill.  Sans notes.  Of affection or anything else!  Sans treats, too.  But, I swear I saw it wink at meWink 

Made my day.

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Reply by frustrated
14 Feb 2016, 4:42 PM

You are one of the sweetest men I know. ALways thinking of others. Yes, I have lots of crows, I think they shared the treat, but then thye probably need it more tha I.

You cheered my day. I have been down the last couple of days. This is the first year I don't have a Valentine sweetheart and it hurts. I want to throw a brick at the TV everyime someone mentions the day. TO bad we can't just filter out some of those comments.

Thank you once again.

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Reply by Jimmie
14 Feb 2016, 6:07 PM

Dear Old Bat and Frustrated:

You are not mistaken, Old Bat. That rapscallion DID wink at you in keeping with his ribald character. I have come to call him "Zorba" in recognition of his fondness for classy ladies of quality, and his less than inhibited lust for life.  He was the most raucous of the crow crew refusing to quiet down in the evening when the others were content to behave, greeting each morning - regardless of the weather conditions - with a raucous, full-throated, raspy challenge, and strutting about our back yard salaciously in a manner whch Casanova himself would envy.  An absolute delight and inspiration, Old Bat. And, I am absolutely delighted - absolutely delighted he found his way to YOUR windowshill. That bird's got taste!! I trust you winked right back!! Which pleases me to no end.

My dear, Frustrated, please forgive the indiscretions of the crows that made it to your home.  It is my fault for not feeding them well enough before they took to the air. Their intentions were noble if their bellies less so. There is a solitary snowy egret, blown off course during one of our storms, which is attempting to overwinter along the shore here.  Had I been more sensitive in terms of your loneliness, I would have trained it to fly to your home, in place of the crows, to keep you company and for you to do the same.  It is delicate, lost, and alone - it would, I know, find great comfort in your care and you in its gratitude and grace.

With affection -

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Reply by oldbat
14 Feb 2016, 6:47 PM

Hola Jim,

Yup, I winked right back.  You betcha!   And then that saucy thing up and croaked "happy Valentine's Day".  You taught him well, Jimmie!

Sending smiles and winks and V wishes to you, too.  And may the day bring you and Sarah moments of love, happiness and humour.  It's already done that for Karl and me.


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Reply by Nouce
14 Feb 2016, 7:26 PM

Dearest Jimmie and all,

I feared that given the frigid air blowing south from your way, and the long distance, my crow wouldn't make it. But he showed up this afternoon! Smiling sheepishly.,. Many, many thanks.

Love, Nancy

Now off to visit Pablo with some Valentine ice cream for him. 
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Reply by oldbat
15 Feb 2016, 4:58 PM

Dear Xenia,

Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.  I know this is a tough time of the year for you, but wanted you to hear that I and, I'm sure, all the others on this thread miss your wonderful, witty and profound observations on life as you know it.

No pressure, Xenia.  I should talk!  I've been largely absent for lo these many months, mostly due to ill health.  Pneumonia lately.  But, but, but ... it is always a comfort to know that you are appreciated, valued and welcomed.  And you are.  Indeed you are.

So, take heart my dear.  Get back to us when you can.  And to all you other wonderful people at CVH, your posts have been shafts of sunlight on some very dark days. 

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Reply by Xenia
16 Feb 2016, 5:21 PM

Greetings to All:

So wonderful reading all the messages this morning.  I have been remiss in not keeping in contact but old age dealth me a blow and I was under the weather for a while.  No time for birdwatching, listening to music or such.  Just taking time out and waiting for this episode to pass.

Belated Happy Valentines day to all:  While I was laid up I read more and came across some words of wisdom by Henry Van Dyke and felt it said so much to me and I am quiet sure most of us on CVH.

Quoting:  "Time is slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but those who love, time is an eternity."

Jimmie, your crows remind me of seeing a murder of crows each evening heading to their roosting place.  One first then two then more than one could count.  They are such intelligent birds and I am sure one of your motley crew of crows will or has dropped off a Valentine's Day wish on the tree outside my window.  Thank you all for the good wishes to all of us on this message board.

Had a lot of repair done to my body, ie:  teeth, eye exam tomorrow and physio for the joints and hope to be in good repair for the upcoming spring so I can get out and walk and able to do much more than I have these past few weeks.  Ah, this growing up..or old brings about aches and pains that I am sure the medicals are not aware of and which we could write a new medical book describing them just in case they are not aware of what can take place in our once vibrant bodies.  However, I will not give in, yet.

Take care all.  I head for physio for my arms and hope to be able to sit at the computer for a longer time and once again take part in the conversation on this message board which has become my support this past 2 years.

Fond Regards to All

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