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Reply by Jimmie
16 Feb 2016, 9:33 PM


It is such a delight for me to "hear" your voice again. I hope your physio goes well.  Thank you for that quotation from Van Dyke - just another one of the many gifts you have given me, us, over the last while and much appreciated.

My understanding is that spring comes early on the West Coast. It seems only fitting that you should enjoy the arrival of that season first. You deserve that privilege and pleasure.


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Reply by NatR
17 Feb 2016, 4:08 AM

Hello Xenia 

good to hear from you  
sorry you have been under the weather and I hope you will be in fine form for spring and nicer weather
in northern ontario we have been dealing with -40 to -49 with windchill and I was feeling like a bear in hibernation 
gladly the weather has warmed up but it is bringing us lots of snow
we just can't win!!!!

have a good week and good night ;)
best to all 
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Reply by Xenia
22 Feb 2016, 5:12 PM

Good Morning to All:

A great morning in B.C.  The rain has stopped and the sun is rising slowly.  The first of the Cherry Blossoms are coming out and we are all surpirsed to see them blooming so early, but then it is almost March.  The crocuses have pushed their heads up to greet the early spring and snowdrops are  telling us spring is around the corner.  Ah, the vagaries of living in the west and in the coast line.  No, do not throw items at me, my family in the East have threatened to hang up on me when I tell them about the weather especially when they are digging out.

The body repairs have gone well.  I need prescription glasses for reading, eyes are too dry, that is repairable, my arms will always be sore but with physio I shall live somewhat longer.  That is all good news.  Back to the exercises every morning that is offered to the residents.  Good to see others in the same boat and as we creak togehter we shrug our shoulders, (that is if they are not hurting too much) and carry on.  I go to bed with Dr. Ho more often now and it does help.

I read a book a few years ago by Pearl Buck, called "A Pavillion of Women",  as I observe the residents in this facility this could be a pavillion of women.  So many of us have lost our beloved partner/husband and carry on with memories of times past.  Meeting with a number of them for coffee in the afternoon talk goes around to how they miss their husbands and the care they gave them through an illness, etc.  Many speak of the loss and the emptiness of their lives now, however, they carry on doing volunteer work, being busy at hobbies, playing bridge, reading or any other activiy to fill the void of the loss of a loved one.

We speak of daughters who have helped us get settled in our new homes, we speak of them as unpaid caregivers to their families and as we share our inner most thoughts we know that it is the daughters who carry most of the burden of parents and their aging needs.  There are a number of sons who appear to be the caregiver to the mother or father in residence and you can see the delight and joy of the parent when they see their son or daughter coming into visit with them.  

We also see couples who reside here where the husband is now the caregiver of their wives.  We see them taking their wives to have their hair done, nails taken care of. Doing the washing, etc.  Bringing them to the dining room for meals, helping them, pushing them in a wheel chair to these activities.   You can see the love and devotion they have for their wives.  

I try not to let the sound of an ambulance siren distress me as it comes closer to the residence.  Another resident has fallen, another resident is being returned from hospital and some residents we no longer see.  We carry on living and do a lot of laughing and sharing our inner most thoughts and cares.  So life goes on missing our loved ones but carrying on the best we can and move on in life with some trepadation and making the best of living each day with others who share the same life style. 

I am off to exercise shortly so will have to sign off and let you know that I am so happy that I have CVH to turn to on the days I need some comfort, happiness or words of wisdome from others across Canada knowing I am not alone and that I can always turn to my friends on CVH to help me through the day.

Take care.  Hugs to all.

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Reply by NatR
22 Feb 2016, 7:16 PM

Good to hear from you Xenia
you paint a good picture of your life your friends and companions and yes the sound of spring and flowers blooming is the best news!

enjoy that lovely weather
i also understand your comparisons to the book you read - and the strong women who carry the load of caring , caregiving.

its true - women walk side by side ( and the occasional men) who can do the job of lifting up their loved ones πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ˜Š

glad you checked in / I am crocheting and looking out onto brilliant sunshine and a cold winter day / but grateful for emails to check, friends to connect with and yes you are some of those friends πŸ‘πŸ»

i hsve a pot pot in the sunny window - trying to start some cherry tomatoes- I am a horrible gardener but it just feels like it's time for new shoots, something green and growing 

it's important to find that - something to inspire
you all inspire me!!
hugs Xenia and all
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Reply by KathCull_admin
22 Feb 2016, 7:28 PM

Just a little joke here - NatR you have a 'pot pot' - are you taking our new Prime Minister at his word? 

Glad your body parts are improving - and that you are back on the forum. As NatR said you paint such beautiful pictures with your words. Thank you. 

Jimmie et al, re the crows. A few weeks ago I was at our local hospital on the 7th floor and looking out the window saw a huge flock of ravens flying around - unusual for us at this time of year. I know this was reported prior to your release of the crows but I just wondered if maybe you had sent out earlier 'scouts'? Winnipeg Ravens 

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Reply by NatR
22 Feb 2016, 7:38 PM

Lol Katherine,

that was a tech typo....just one pot...and no not into the prime ministers next resolution :)
glad you got a smile out of itπŸ‘πŸ»πŸ˜‰
hugs all
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Reply by Xenia
22 Feb 2016, 9:02 PM

Katherine and Nat:

I just had to reply to your email Nat, Pot Pot, this is the green currency of Vancouver as I am sure you are aware and now we have Ontario's former Minister of Health George Smitherman as a director of the medical marijuana company, THC Bio Med Ltd. based in the wonderful city of Kelowna, B.C.  He calls it an "exciting" time to be in the growing industry.

The chairman of THC said as soon as the company's name was added to the Health Canada Website, the phones went nuts" with calls from "tons of investors"

Too bad Health Canada Website doesn't put palliative care on their website and see how many investors would call.  (being facitious)

Who knows your type o might be a sign of the times and you too could become an entrepenaur (spelling) here in B.C. as the good weather, condusive to growth of all things green may be our future and with our Prime Minister sanctioning green industry one may find it "exciting" literally as I understand using Pot is exciting.

You both gave me one good laugh to-day, what with the Sun completely out, the crocuses and Japenese cherry trees in bloom what an exciting day I am having and all without the pot pot.

Laughingly yours"

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Reply by Xenia
02 Mar 2016, 7:05 PM

Greetings to all:

Another month passing and spring is on the horizon and my mind turns to time and how it flies when we don't want it and how slow it goes other times.  

Soon the wedding planning will be over and our grandson (still say our as Tyler was John's grandson-the only one) and the marriage will take place.  I try to keep on top of my feelings but every so often my heart is bursting knowing John would have been so proud to be at his only grandchild's wedding.  He was so proud of him and they had such a love bond between grandpa and grandson.  

My daughter sent me an email with this verse and how appropriate it is for either dad or husband:  

                   My mind still talks to you
                   My heart still looks for you
                   My soul knows you are at Peace.

Our daughters had a close relationship with dad and miss him very much.  Son grieves in his own way and still misses dad.

My daughters took off for Dubai yesterday and are probably in France to-day.  Oh, to be young and do all the travelling and see the world when you are still able.  I miss the summer trips John and I and family took each year.  We travelled Canada and parts of the states and enjoyed being together travelling on the back roads of Canada.  They are so much more interesting than the main highways.

Travelling on the secondary highways you saw Canada and its' citizens as they live without all the trapping of the main highway, fast cars, resturants, fast food cafes, malls, etc.  Secondary roads take you to the small towns with character, veg and fruit stands, stop for a sandwich and coffee, talk to the owners.  Look and wonder at the fields the sparse housing and population yet know behind each bend in the road there is someone toiling on the fields, fruit trees, etc.

 Yes, this is the Canada I grew up in and knew and visited with John, I will miss it.  Each province had a story to tell from B.C. to Newfoundland and as in  one of my favourite books "Travels with Charlie" by John Stienback, so many wanted to leave and look for adventure somewhere else.  The longing to get out of the small town and head for the city was the chant of the young.  Perhaps this is why John left Ontario, headed for B.C., joined the Carnival and travelled and filled his dreams of leaving the nest then meeting me in Saskatchewan and settling in B.C.  Even after we married he loved to get in the car and set off to visit someone somewhere.  Then came the Motorhome and travelling became much easier.

My goodness I digress thinking of spring and summer and travelling.  What a difference a year makes since John died.  I need to travel on my own and know I can do it, one province at a time as I have many relatives to visit across Canada and let go of the past but remember the good times and carry on making my own memories.

I miss you all, Katherine, Jimmie, Old Bat, Nat, Nounce. on and on.  So I will keep writing as it soothes my soul and my need to share my thoughts and reread all the messages on CVH.

Take care my good friends .


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Reply by NatR
02 Mar 2016, 9:05 PM

Hello Xenia,

i just returned from a cold walk uptown to get a few things and came home to find your message and decided to answer quickly

its good to hear from you and I know it's s hard time for you re-juggling your life as a single person,
i know you will always miss John but I admire you for taking the first steps to take care of you - downsizing to a better location for you - and making it easier to cope.
plus you  have been caring for yourself, your physical needs, your health - and yet I know the journey must feel so different 

i think you are fortunate to have your family close by and different events like the upcoming wedding.  As you say it all passes in the blink of an eye.

i am glad you had the trips and the adventures that you now look back on - not many people can say they have seen so many places.

i think your musings would make good articles in a senior publication :) maybe you will find something like that to do / as I know others would enjoy your point of view, your reflective thoughts - just throwing it out there 
sending you a hug from sunny and freezing Ontario where it was -27 Celcius with windchill!
Spring would be nice anytime now πŸŒ·πŸŒ·β˜ƒ

have a good  evening and rest of the week Xenia and all!
best wishes
NatR πŸ€πŸŒ»β˜€οΈ 
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Reply by KathCull_admin
04 Mar 2016, 2:30 AM

I don't think I knew that John joined the carnival Xenia... did you ever read Water for Elephants? It's been awhile but I am pretty sure it is about a man who had been part of the circus/carnival. Canadian author.

I was at the theatre yesterday afternoon to see Chimerica - hard to believe it's over 20 years since Tianenmen Sqare protests. During the intermission I was looking around and saw several couples who looked like they had been together for some time and I thought about how much goes into a relationship like that. It takes years to really know each other, look at each other and just know what the other person is thinking or would say. The comfort of that connection and knowledge that someone knows you and loves you just as you are. Seems to me that could be you and John. I am glad you have memories and stories Xenia. 

How cold for you NatR - I am so thankful that after today (-12) it is supposed to be -8 tomorrow and + 4 or more on the weekend!

Warm wishes to all. And as Tiny Tim would say "And to all a good night".

ps also thought you might be interested in thread started by EastCoastPEI Greeting Cards designed by a Cancer Survivor
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