Hello Everyone
I understand what you are relating to me , being a widow is a learning curve. After over 40 years, you suddenly have a lifestyle change. Everyone assumes you have moved on, but until you walk in someone’s grieving path, you can’t assume to understand. Everyone’s path is also different from your own. It does take time, and I guess I get very impatient and want life to change automatically.
Also, the passing of my brother-in-law , I think triggered all the grief I have been going through. My sister’s situation is also different from mine. She still has children at home and works daily. These things help somewhat, instead of being alone on a daily basis. Not only did I lose my husband, but my way of life as it was.
When I sit down and analyze what I have accomplished in the last two years, I have come a long way, being able to maintain the house and everything that goes with it. At times I feel stuck in the moment and wonder which direction I am headed in.
As I think back, I am fighting change. We get to be creatures of habit and that seems to be what I have been reluctant to do is change. I want everything to be like it was, and of course, that’s when I get upset! Like you said, baby steps. Unfortunately, selling my house doesn’t seem to be a baby step but a big leap! And maybe I’m not ready for that! They say that you will know when it’s time! And maybe that’s true.
You are right, live in the moment and one day at a time!
Regards, Jane