Hello Shelley,
Welcome to our community. You will have met some of the caring, supportive members as you read through this thread.
In less than a year your life has been turned upside down. I can only imagine how tired you are and how difficult it must be for the children. A short video by Andrea Warnick called How kids grieve, might be of interest to you.
Shelley, what resources do you have to help as you grieve and parent your children? What have you found has helped as you ‘try to heal’ yourself?
Katherine