Hi Kim:
Just a short note wondering how you are doing. Been busy with John who is also in pallative care. I can appreciate your dealing with your husband's denial and I would suggest this is his way of dealing with his own fears and lossess.
My husband accepted his death when he had a near death symptoms when he had a massive heart attack. He has always been accepting of death and that has made it much easier for the family and myself, however, he doesn;t talk much about what is going on in his mind. He had a bad turn the other day and told me he felt like he was dying and when I read some articles on near death this was one of the symptoms. Also, the nurses have been so supportive when he says he is going to go to sleep and not wake up. I wish this for all who are going through palliative care, for them selves and family .
My heart goes out to you and I share your dilema. I read in a book I have been reading that Love is more faithful than an old dog, and I thought of so many of the wives that love their husbands and are faithful to them throught out their marriage, sharing the ups and downs and now sharing in their passing.
I am not sure what Dale meant by you being blunt, but perhaps he meant, I surmise, being blunt in that hubby needs to go to hospice and not being blunt in unkind words.
Take care and hugs to you and all who are nursing a palliative care person, family memeber or friend.
Xenia