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Reply by Carlyn
24 Jul 2016, 11:48 PM
Hey Lulu975, I was in similar situation re: caregiving role and parents in 2008. Just recently moved from house to condo too. I know how you feel in that sense, of finding out who you are. It's good you downsized, less to worry about there and you can focus on taking care of you. 

Jessicasarah, and Lulu975, it's years ago now professionally but I used to work in a law firm doing estates and trusts before I became an accountant. Also grew up with a sister very ill. I've sort of been trained all my life for facing and preparing for illness and death. I was also caregiver for sister and both parents and executor on all 3 estates. I know laws change etc. but the rest of it, planning for all the rest, sharing this just to say - i'm good talking about it from all sides I think. If needed ;-) It's excellent you two connected here. :-)


 
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Reply by KathCull_admin
07 Aug 2016, 2:10 AM
How are you doing jessicasarah? 

Katherine 
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Reply by jessicasarah
08 Sep 2016, 4:03 PM
I am doing alright. Having a bit of a struggle with the details of pre planning, like the venue and program. I am not having a religious ceremony so that makes a lot of the planning more open ended and there's not a lot of resources where I am. 
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Reply by KathCull_admin
18 Sep 2016, 4:33 PM
Jessicasarah, I have been thinking about your post even though it has taken me a few days to respond. I also read your post to Lulu on another thread.

Would it help you if you were to write down the things that are important to you in terms of the service and perhaps leave the details to your family and friends when the time comes?

A very dear friend died 4 years ago - she had metastatic breast cancer for a number of years. She very much wanted to have everything organized, but like you it was hard to get all the details sorted out. She worried about her family having to look after everything. But you know after her death, her family found a most unique setting - a new place that my friend didn't know about. They had a lovely memorial honoring her wishes - she too did not want a religious ceremony. She also didn't want a video with pictures of her - and they made a lovely video of her garden - she was a wonderful gardener - and one picture of her at the end - giving a look that only she could give:)

Just a thought but I was thinking there might be many other things you would want to spend your time on now.

Thinking of you all on this thread,
Katherine  
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Reply by jessicasarah
19 Sep 2016, 2:45 PM
Thank you for your post Katherine! I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. You are very right-- there are other things I would much rather be doing!!! No point worrying about it. Cool
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