Hey Lulu975, I was in similar situation re: caregiving role and parents in 2008. Just recently moved from house to condo too. I know how you feel in that sense, of finding out who you are. It's good you downsized, less to worry about there and you can focus on taking care of you.
Jessicasarah, and Lulu975, it's years ago now professionally but I used to work in a law firm doing estates and trusts before I became an accountant. Also grew up with a sister very ill. I've sort of been trained all my life for facing and preparing for illness and death. I was also caregiver for sister and both parents and executor on all 3 estates. I know laws change etc. but the rest of it, planning for all the rest, sharing this just to say - i'm good talking about it from all sides I think. If needed ;-) It's excellent you two connected here. :-)