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Réponse de Glasslady001
01 nov. 2012, 16 h 53

Hi everyone,
I am a professional counsellor specializing in grief counselling. My husband was diagnosed with cancer last week and I am lost. We trult cannot counsel ourselves.
 
Réponse de NatR
01 nov. 2012, 17 h 19

Dear Glasslady001,

my heart went out to you when I saw your note.
your brief message said it all.
as a caregiver and as a retired PSW - I hear and I understand your words.  Trainning and skills such as you have, doesn't seem to work the same when the focus is on you and your loved ones.

I want you to know this forum is a place you can vent and share with others.
I hope you will continue to talk and write - because you will be heard and understood.

It is just as important for you to reach out for help right now, for yourself and your husband.

We all need someone else to talk to in a crisis.  Others who  can hear us and empathize 
You are still who you are - a great counsellor and therapist - but you are also now personally effected.

your story will be on my heart and mind as it will touch others who read it.  As a community of caregivers and professionals, also as family members - we all give each other support and ways to get through each day.

please update when you can and let us know how you are doing.  i know others will respond and offer ideas to you as well.

my thoughts are with you.
you are dealing with shock and disbelief right now.  I know that you have skills to help you - and I hope myself and others on the forum can offer support and a listening ear
my best to you,
natR
Apologies for errors! My phone and I struggle to type:)

 
 
Réponse de Glasslady001
01 nov. 2012, 18 h 19

Thank you for your kind words. I am sure I will visit often
 
Réponse de Brayden
01 nov. 2012, 19 h 40

Dear Glasslady001,
Thank you for joining in with us on this forum. I can tell that you are a great counsellor just by humbly admitting so openly that you also need support. I imagion that you will see some things from a totally different perspective now that you and your love will have to navigate through this journey together. As a biased fellow Winnipeger, I take some comfort in knowing that you will have many excellent resources available to assist you. Please keep posting as here we all care about you and want to be here for you in confidence. Peace
Brayden
 
Réponse de Glasslady001
01 nov. 2012, 20 h 02

Thank you Brayden. It is truly amazing how fast our worlds can be shattered.
 
02 nov. 2012, 20 h 38

Dear Glasslady001,
Welcome to Virtual Hospice. I'm so glad you found us. Faced with our own health crisis quickly turns the tables, making it nearly impossible to care for ourselves as we do others. You are definitely not alone. In fact we have another discussion we other healthcare providers are talking about this very issue. May be you would like to add to the conversation. 

Other healthcare providers providing care for a family member 

If you prefer, you can also start a New Topic so that this important discussion is not buried in these introductions.
We are here for you and offer our ears and shoulders for support.
Colleen
 
 
Réponse de Glasslady001
02 nov. 2012, 20 h 55

Thank you. I have subscribed to that discussion group as well.i am stillin shock and disbelief, so not sure What to say. I couldn't even spell my name today....
 
Réponse de Glasslady001
02 nov. 2012, 20 h 58

I should have added that my husband is in such denial that he has moved in with his mom, because she does not know....
 
Réponse de NatR
02 nov. 2012, 21 h 48

Dear Glasslady001

wow, not only are you dealing with the shock of your husbands illness - but you are the only one who is dealing with the truth?

your husband  prefers to pretend it isn't happening ??
Who else do you have in your family circle who can give you support?
who will be your support?

So now you have to deal with this alone? Is your husband angry with you?
Sorry I don't mean to bombard you with questions but I am just trying to put myself in your shoes and try to understand your challenges.

its hard to know what to do - but I would certainly start gathering your support network.  Do you have children?

I am thinking of you tonite and want you to know that you can always come and share your feelings and be heard.  I have lived through a siblings death - and my parent wanted to lie, pretend it wasn't happening and not tell anyone how desperate the situation was.

it meant that my other parent was alone in grief without support of  family members.

i took it on myself to give some information to other family members in order to gain support for my family.  It was difficult to do and I agonized over what I did - but never regretted gaining support and understanding.
The me tended family did pour out their support and live.
i hope that you will find your own circle of support - believe me it makes all the difference.
here is where you will find a circle to support you also.

you are in my thoughts tonite and I hope others on the forum will offer their  perspective to yyou best wishes
NatR 
 
Réponse de Glasslady001
02 nov. 2012, 22 h 47

Thank you  natr,
i have no support. He has chosen to tell his family that he is with his mom because I have a drinkinG problem. Not true, but what he chooses to believe. We have no children, but 3 rescue dogs, which are our children .


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