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21 juin 2012, 20 h 36

Hi Carrie,

How are you doing? Dealing with strained family relationships isn't easy at the best of times. When you have so little precious time left, it compounds everything. I don't think you are alone in being confronted with difficult family dynamics. That's why I'm grateful that NatR started a new thread on exactly that topic. See Family dynamics and dysfunction. 

I look forward to hearing from you again. When you don't write for a few days, I fret like a mother hen.
Colleen
 
Réponse de Cath1
22 juin 2012, 16 h 08

Dear Carriek:

Carrie, I feel like a mother hen too, wondering and worrying about how your husband is doing and how you and your kids are coping. 

I hope things somehow settled down for you with your husband's family and I hope you were able to follow the good advice given about asking for support with these troubling issues from the palliative team.

Carrie, I hope you know you are in my heart, as always. 

With affection,
-hugs-
Cath1 
 
22 juin 2012, 16 h 10

Hi Carrie,

A new member just joined our community. Pooka started a new thread and is looking for someone in a similar situation to share with her. Her husband is 43 and has cancer that has metastasized throughout his body. Here's where you can connect with her if you wish:
 
Réponse de nanalovesu
26 juin 2012, 17 h 50

It's time to start a new topic for some of us.  Going from WE TO ME.  My husband has been gone a year now and many significant dates have passed with heartache. As much as writing these feelings hurt, my hope, is  to share what I now know and maybe there will be someone who can answer a new set of questions I have. How to go from WE TO ME.
 
Réponse de NatR
26 juin 2012, 18 h 04

Hi Nanalovesu,

I don't think I have the answers to your questions...but I wanted to acknowledge your note.  Going from We to Me sounds like it should be a new discussion thread...and I bet a lot of members in the forum will respond.  It is a perfect subject for you to suggest.


I am single but have not lost a spouse as you have.  I can identify in that going from a partnership to single - is definitely an adjustment.

I do believe that you will begin to reach out for new friends, experiences, ways to renew your life.

I look forward to reading the messages and I believe that your note today shows a readiness (my very humble opinion) to begin again, to carry on.  You will never forget your husband and all tha you shared.  All the memories, your life, your laughter, your achievements, it is all part of you - never to be forgotten.

I admire your strength in writing today.  I look forward to your next note.  Do you live in a community that has groups for those grieving a loss?  Sometimes they can be very valuable to attend, to gain insight, possibly new friends, new ideas of where to devote your time and energy..   Its a thought anyway:)

I hope that others will jump in and share their comments, I know I will be watching with interest.

For now, I wish you the best and hope that today you feel well.
Sincerely,
NatR 
 
26 juin 2012, 18 h 25

Hi NatR and everyone,

Here's the link to the thread  Going from WE TO ME........   that Nanalovesu started. 
 
Réponse de Carriek
30 juin 2012, 5 h 13

Dear Caron
I am so absolutely sorry to read of your husbands passing. I know this must be such a sad time for you... I am here for you Caron. Each time I have logged on here I have always looked for your messages as we shared that common thread... of dealing with our husbands suffering.
Caron please know that I will never forget you, even with everything going on in our lives I have thought of you so very often wondering how things were going.
I am sad for you Caron.I wish we could have that coffee or hot chocolate, and just sit and cry together.
 Please stay in contact, I need you.  I am so afraid- truly afraid of the nearing of the end.  xo Carriek    
 
Réponse de Carriek
30 juin 2012, 5 h 39

Totally frustrated... Ive typede two messages to all of you and lost both.. promise  will re write more very soon 
 
Réponse de Cath1
30 juin 2012, 5 h 50

Dear Carriek:

I am up late watching movies and just saw your message to Caron. I know coming from you it will mean the world to her. You have both shared the same painful journey which creates a bond that others cannot always truly understand.

Thank you for trying to post to update us all on how your husband is doing and how you and the kids are managing. Remember to select your text and copy it before you post next time in case you have the same problem and then at least you won't lose the entire content. I'm so sorry you are having posting problems again.

Until we hear from you again, please know we are all thinking about you Carrie and we are all keeping you and your family in olur hearts and our prayers.   
 
With affection -hugs- xo
Cath1

  
 
Réponse de Carriek
30 juin 2012, 16 h 51

Hi All--
Let me try this again.. now that I have had a little sleep.
My husband celebrated his 47th Birthday is hospital.. I snuck in early while he was asleep and completely decorated his room with Birthday Banner with his name on it, balloons, flowers, presents, and collages of photographs of our family. Brought in cake and had arranged for a few close friends (12) to slip in sing happy birthday and have cake. It was nice, emotional but nice.   


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