Coming to the end of life is hard. It seems that no one answer fits all circumstances. In relationships there is usually give and take and decisions are made mutually, but illness complicates things. Often the caregiver is forced to make tough choices - alone - ones they never would have wished to make. One of those really tough ones can be whether or not their family member is able to die at home. Being at home means you provide care, cook, clean, support your husband emotionally and spiritually + you are his wife. I can understand how tired you are. I am glad you have the support of the home care team/nurse Grammakim - that will help as you make decisions.
In thinking about making decisions and looking back on them, an article I found helpful is How Do You Know You've Done the Right Thing?
Aphasia Sufferer’s Daughter to know that you had arranged for people to spend time with your mother – and they didn’t – that must be really tough. I am sorry that happened to her and you.
I got this quote from Mister Rogers. “Some days, doing "the best we can" may still fall short of what we would like to be able to do, but life isn't perfect on any front-and doing what we can with what we have is the most we should expect of ourselves or anyone else.”